5 Basic stages from love to marriage
Anyone who loves and progresses toward marriage must necessarily go through the 5 ups and downs below.
1. Flirting and infatuation
This stage is the first step for each couple’s love story. Mainly during this time, everything will be extremely sparkling and wonderful in everyone’s eyes. The two will try to make their opponent happy and excited to get an interesting, good impression of themselves.
Most consultants agree that this period usually lasts from two months to two years, and is a temporary period of any emotional relationship. A Ph.D. in psychology shared: “The stage of flirting and romance is necessary, but it is only a temporary period…. In this stage, each person will have hopes of experiencing affection and being sublimated in love. The feeling of happiness is always overwhelming. But it won’t and shouldn’t last forever. ”
At this stage, each person will gain for themselves a certain experience of love, it will also be the basis for couples to enter another stage or possibly the closure of a Love.
2. Birth of conflict
After a long time of being immersed with courtship and infatuation, naturally human feelings will gradually fall into saturation and this is also the time when you will see the shortcomings of your loved one. You realize that he is not as perfect as you first thought and the initial excitement will gradually be adjusted to better suit your actual situation and emotions. It is the appearance of imperfections that will make you feel disillusioned and inevitably will generate conflict — conflict.
You may scream and grumble about the bad habits of your loved one. The controversy and contradiction from small things will start to happen, even sometimes it will make you angry, extremely inhibited, depressed. Both want others to change, while they remain the same. You can also make accusations or hurt your loved ones by angry words. Psychologists think that these conflicts are necessary for you to win each other’s position in a new status quo. This will also help you understand each other better and connect more.
3. Reassessing and forming identities
This stage begins with a fork in the road when the two of you sit back and begin to assess based on whether or not you want to maintain the relationship. To get the right reflections and truly valid assessments, you may be tempted to move on to a period of “isolation” from the one you love. When you have a mature thought or you will continue or you will make a decision to stop everything here. Maybe you will feel more frustrated than happy …
At this point your emotional chart will have an imbalance, your satisfaction will begin to decline and your struggle for yourself will be even more than you think for the other half.
4. Awareness-raising, relationship conversion, and coordination
If your relationship passes through the third stage and survives to this point, then you will have a special interest to reconnect all the good things you have missed. You will have a worry of his own is how to make him influenced, influenced by your feelings and will love you more. You are afraid your relationship will be influenced by his family members.
You can start seeing forecasts about your and his changes. You want to be able to start developing plans to fully understand who he is, willing to do anything to end all conflicts. This is the time for you to establish a safe boundary for your relationship: maintain a connection, understanding each other.
At this point, both of you will realize that your relationship has a future and this is the motivation and strength for both of you to strive for change. You are ready to gain a new understanding of your love partner and relationship with that person, even if you have to suffer to solve the root of all problems, you still do.
5. Mediation, acceptance and moving towards marriage
This is the last step to complete the loving “process” of every couple. During this period each person will have to take responsibility for their needs with the support of the other half. Each person will reconcile himself/herself so that the other half feels warmth, respect and the balance between personal rights and common affairs. Couples will find a way to resolve conflicts quickly. Will share everything and resent each other less. At this point, both will be satisfied with the other half because it is the person they choose: both handicapped and nice.
